No One Tells You This

No One Tells You This

A Memoir

eBook - 2018
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"I found myself underlining sentences, and then entire passages, that resonated with me, articulating the extreme inadequacy and sense of dislocation single women of a certain age, like MacNicol—and like me —experience in moments when others are growing closer without anthem to choosing the single, family-free life."—Amanda Stern, The New York Times Book Review BuzzFeed: "Exciting Summer Books" Goop: "15 Books We're Reading This Summer" "13 Books to Thrill, Entertain, and Sustain You This Summer" Bustle: "15 Best Nonfiction Books Coming Out In July 2018" Town & Country: "Best New Books to Read This July" "The 40 Best Books to Read This Summer" InStyle: "11 Books to Bury Your Nose in This Summer" If the story doesn't end with marriage or a child, what then?This question plagued Glynnis MacNicol on the eve of her 40th birthday. Despite a successful career as a writer, and an exciting life in New York City, Glynnis was constantly reminded she had neither of the things the world expected of a woman her age: a partner or a baby. She knew she was supposed to feel bad about this. After all, single women and those without children are often seen as objects of pity, relegated to the sidelines, or indulgent spoiled creatures who think only of themselves. Glynnis refused to be cast into either of those roles and yet the question remained: What now? There was no good blueprint for how to be a woman alone in the world. She concluded it was time to create one. Over the course of her fortieth year, which this memoir chronicles, Glynnis embarks on a revealing journey of self-discovery that continually contradicts everything she'd been led to expect. Through the trials of family illness and turmoil, and the thrills of far-flung travel and adventures with men, young and old (and sometimes wearing cowboy hats), she is forced to wrestle with her biggest hopes and fears about love, death, sex, friendship, and loneliness. In doing so, she discovers that holding the power to determine her own fate requires a resilience and courage that no one talks about, and is more rewarding than anyone imagines. Intimate and timely, No One Tells You This is a fearless reckoning with modern womanhood and an exhilarating adventure that will resonate with anyone determined to live by their own rules.
Publisher: 2018
ISBN: 9781501163159
Characteristics: 1 online resource

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Oct 02, 2019

And that's exactly the revelation & recognition which comes from living a life on your own terms without buying into the notion that your only raison d'etre as a Female is to be a wife and mother. Glynnis articulates this lyrically and with grace as she takes us on the journey of the first year of being 40, single and childfree. I found her narrative style and pacing very engaging which made this memoir read like a juicy novel. I'm grateful to her for Writing this and opening a long-overdue and much-needed discussion which all Women need to have particularly those in their 20's and 30's, and that is that you have an abundance of choices in how you choose to live your one, wild precious life. This is the most amazing time in several thousand years for Women, a time of unprecedented choice in all things! Let's make the most of it!

May 17, 2019

The best memoir I have read in a while. Honest and refreshing. The end does not taper off like most memoirs, it left me with a sense of closure. The author over uses the word undulating and I wish she had delved more into her political views, she had a good couple things to say that I enjoyed her perspective on. I reccomend this to any womyn or man of any life stage.

May 01, 2019

Reminds me of 'eat pray love' and Cait Flanders "a year of living with less", none hold my interest. Authors such as Laura Kipnis, Roxane Gay, Rebecca Traister, Rebecca Solnit, Barbara Ehrenreit have spoiled me for less mature/brilliant writers. Also the audiobook reader Allyson Ryan doesn't have an enjoyable cadence, I can't help wishing the author had narrated, and improved the flow. I made it halfway...

Nov 12, 2018

I don’t get this book. How did she get a book deal? Reads like stream of consciousness thinking of the dull, 40th year of the author. Didn’t find it interesting, inspiring nor funny.

Nov 09, 2018

This is good reading for those who might benefit from looking at what they have in their lives that others don't, as opposed to what they don't have in their lives that others do. Certainly neither way (singlehood vs. marriage/children) is perfect, but both ways hold both pleasures and disappointments. A good book for our times when so many women are happily making their way through uncharted territory.


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Oct 02, 2019

"Men, it occurred to me, perhaps for the first time in my life, did not need to be a goal... For now, I was going back to New York. I had never wanted to leave my life entirely, I realized. I'd only wanted to know that I had the ability to step out of it and into something new. Now I knew. And I could do it again and again and again, whenever I wanted. The knowledge I possessed that freedom made me feel more powerful than I could remember feeling for a very long time."


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